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Persons are complex beings.
Sweet Little Ice Queen
I love analyzing people and situations, people say its a gift. Unfortunately, I have great difficulty analyzing who I really am and I'm already in my early twenties.
I hope this online journal will help me sort myself out or this would be the best venue to vent out pent up cold anxiety...and share the things that make me warm, sweet and happy (or sappy!).
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* Friday, August 10, 2007 *
Failing the Test of Mutuality
While reading Professor Balane's civil law reviewer I come across the term "mutuality".He stresses the importance of mutuality in contracts. According to him and jurisprudence, the basic intention of the law in any contract is mutuality and equality. In other words, the validity of a contract cannot be left at the will of one of the contracting parties. Same can be said in basic human relations such as between friends. And of course in romantic relations. Unfortunately, it is in the search of romantic relations where we often fail to pass the test of mutuality. It's funny how you want to attach yourself to someone who does not want to attach to you or vice versa. But despite the fact that we know our present circumstances fail to pass the test of mutuality, we have this human tendency to try to enforce such non-existent contract. We plead sincerity in our intentions hoping that the element of mutuality will eventually arise. Even though the situation seems problematic or in extreme cases really bleak...we stop pleading and instead leave an unspoken and implied continuing offer. These things we do while praying that one day the other party re-examines your proposal and sends his/her acceptance. It's amazing how much one person can try... how one person can hope. * * * Why can't I simply settle for the one who hands his heart on a platter for me to consume? Why do I secretly keep offering my heart to someone who refuses to take it? When will there be a meeting of the minds (and more importantly of hearts) in my life? All I have is a collection of cluttered void and inexistent contracts. Just like a stack of unorganized photocopied materials on my desk. |